Hey guys, by a show of hands how many of you have experienced an “equipment failure”? Be honest now … if you haven’t raised your hand, you are probably a teenager or you are not being honest because every guy out there has had this experience. And probably more than once. Not being able to have or maintain an erection or in the vernacular you “can’t get it up” is more common than you think. So don’t be embarrassed and fess up.
Stating the obvious, a hard erect penis and being able to maintain it in that state is a large part of sexy fun. But sometimes the equipment just doesn’t cooperate. Why?
For the most part getting it up is a combination of human physiology and psychology. The physiology part is a combination of your body’s hydraulics and chemistry. The psychology portion is well, psychology. Remember the largest sex organ is found between the ears. So, if there isn’t some level of attraction to the other person or if there is activity going on around you that doesn’t turn you on or distracts you, then there is a good chance you will just have a limp dick. As a teenager a good breeze would probably get you hard but as you age you need more than a breeze.
But what are some of the reasons that impact your physiology or psyche? For starters have you been drinking? Almost everyone does but have you been drinking enough to feel a buzz? Well, if you feel that buzz, your equipment will be feeling it too and not necessarily in a good way. In the past we’ve talked about the social aspects of drinking and using alcohol either as liquid courage or helping you get in the mood. But there is a fine line between enough alcohol to get you into the mood and a dreaded case of whiskey dick. Alex has found that, that fine line may vary, so drinkers beware.
How about when you meet an incredibly sexy couple. You all hit off and are down to play. You are in the moment, clothes come off, the fun starts, but your penis doesn’t go up. Or more embarrassingly, it goes down almost as fast as it went up. Chances are you are having a case of performance anxiety. It happens. Just move on to some other form of play that doesn’t involve your penis. This may be disappointing but don’t let it get the best of you and ruin a play session, not just for you but also for your partner. And, if you take your mind off it, you may in a short time find yourself getting hard as normal. So just don’t dwell on it!
Another deal killer for you may be sensory overload. Porn is hot and live porn is hotter. But can there be too much of a good thing? Sometime the answer is yes. We are writing this from our terrace at Desire which is a great example of what we are talking about. As we have written in the past, Desire is a special place where there are many naked people and quite a few are openly engaged in sex. Live porn at its best. But is it best for you? For some guys the sights and sounds may be way too distracting and with distraction comes, you guessed it …
You can deduce some solutions to the problems that we mention but one overarching assist may come from drugs like the “little blue pill”, Viagra, or the “more bang for your buck”, Cialis. Both require a prescription, and both now available as generics, so the cost has come down dramatically since they were introduced to the market. And here is a little secret … more guys are taking these drugs than not. Even if you do not have a big problem or a problem at all a little pre-game pill can make a big difference. But before you start popping pills, we STRONGLY recommend you discuss this with your physician because you may have a medical condition that make these wonder drugs a no-no. Remember, we are not giving medical advice, we are not medical practitioners but rather mentioning this as friends.
And speaking of your trusted doctor this brings us to another matter. Some guys do have medical conditions that may interfere with having or maintaining an erection. Some conditions may be easy to treat but others can be quite serious. So guys, take a deep breath and have a chat with your doc. They are adults. They have sex. They may be in the lifestyle (you wouldn’t believe how many doctors we met this week at Desire). And, for sure you can be certain that they have heard it all before.
So let us know your experiences. We’d love to hear from you.
Donna & Alex